You Don’t Need Another Reinvention. You Need Permission to Be Done.
You don’t need another reinvention. You need permission to be done carrying what no longer fits, and the courage to choose what comes next on your own terms.
When Rest Still Feels Unsafe, Don’t Force It
If rest still feels uncomfortable or even unsafe, the answer isn’t to push harder. It’s to stop forcing something your nervous system doesn’t trust yet.
When You’re Not Broken, Just Bone-Tired
If January feels heavy instead of hopeful, you’re not doing it wrong. You’re not broken. You’re bone-tired from carrying more than your share for a very long time.
The Loneliness No One Talks About
If you feel lonely during the holidays, even surrounded by people, you’re not broken. This is the loneliness no one talks about, and it deserves compassion.
Why You Feel Overstimulated in December (Even If You’re Not Drinking)
If December feels overwhelming, loud, or exhausting, even when your life looks fine, your nervous system may be overloaded. Here’s why, and what actually helps.
When You Realize You’re Tired of Being “The Strong One”
If you’re tired of always being “the strong one,” you’re not alone. This blog explores the emotional labor women carry and what helps you finally put it down.
The Holiday Hangover You Can Feel Coming (And It’s Not About Alcohol)
You don’t need to drink in December to feel worn out. Here’s why the holiday season overwhelms your mind, body, and boundaries, and how to prevent the emotional hangover before it hits.
Why Your Drinking Feels Worse During the Holidays — And What You Can Do About It
If your drinking ramps up in December, there’s a damn good reason. The holidays hit every emotional nerve we’ve got. Here’s what’s really going on — and what you can actually do about it.
When Your Nervous System Runs the Show (and What It’s Costing You)
Your nervous system isn’t overreacting — it’s overloaded. Learn why midlife women feel stuck in high alert, why it’s not your fault, and how stillness and horses can finally help your body breathe again.
Why the Desert Is a Powerful Place for Women in Recovery
The desert does something most environments can’t: it finally gives your nervous system a chance to breathe. For women in midlife recovery, that quiet spaciousness becomes the doorway to clarity, connection, and healing — especially when combined with the wisdom of horses.
Healing Isn’t Linear: Why Setbacks Don’t Mean Failure
Healing isn’t a straight line — it’s a spiral. Each time you circle back, you bring more awareness, grace, and strength. Setbacks aren’t failures; they’re feedback.
Finding Magic in the Desert
The desert has a quiet kind of magic — the kind that strips away noise and invites you to listen to what’s true. At Apache Springs Ranch, I rediscovered how stillness, horses, and open sky can bring you home to yourself.
From Surviving to Thriving: The Small Shifts That Change Everything
For years, survival was my superpower — until I realized it was also my cage. Thriving doesn’t mean constant happiness; it means small shifts that bring you back to joy, presence, and possibility.
When Burnout Sneaks Into Recovery (and What It’s Trying to Tell You)
After more than sixteen years in recovery, I know one thing for sure: burnout doesn’t care how long you’ve been sober, grounded, or “doing the work.” You can have all the tools, all the awareness, and still find yourself running on empty.
Burnout doesn’t always come from overworking; sometimes it comes from over-caring — from carrying the weight of things you can’t control, and trying to hold it all together because you have to.
It’s not recovery versus burnout, it’s recovery including burnout. Healing isn’t a finish line you cross; it’s a lifelong practice of noticing when you’re slipping back into old patterns and gently returning to what’s true.
What If Vulnerability Made You Stronger?
When I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer on my 58th birthday, I thought I knew what strength meant — until chemo, recovery, and vulnerability taught me otherwise. For years, I was the strong one, the capable one, the woman who rarely asked for help. But cancer didn’t give a shit about my control plan. What saved me wasn’t grit — it was surrender. Vulnerability didn’t make me weak; it made me real. And that, my friends, is where true strength lives.
Boundaries in Recovery: Lessons from Horses (and Life)
When a horse swishes its tail or pins its ears, it’s not being rude — it’s setting a boundary. In recovery, we can learn the same lesson: boundaries aren’t rejection, they’re protection. Horses remind us that honoring our space keeps relationships honest, safe, and balanced — and that’s true for healing too.
Why Individual Coaching Creates Faster Transformation
I was sitting in my therapist's office - the same office I'd been visiting for months after my cancer diagnosis. We'd talked through my childhood trauma, my parents' alcoholism, my own addiction journey, my father's suicide. I could recite my story backwards and forwards. But I was still stuck. That's when I made a decision that shocked everyone: I hired a life coach. Here's what I discovered about the difference between understanding why you're stuck and knowing how to get unstuck.
Why Doing "All the Work" Still Leaves You Stuck (and How BRAVE Changes Everything)
You’ve checked all the boxes — therapy, groups, journaling, self-help — but you still feel stuck. Here’s why all the effort isn’t enough, and how the BRAVE Recovery Method™ helps you move forward with clarity and courage.
The Myth of 'Rock Bottom' (And Why It's Keeping You Stuck)
Rock bottom is a myth. And it's a dangerous one that's keeping countless women trapped in cycles of suffering while everyone waits for some magical moment of clarity that may never come. You don't have to lose everything to deserve help. Your desire to heal is enough.
What Horses Taught Me About Recovery (That Therapy Didn’t)
In therapy, I could perform recovery. I could say the right words, nod at the appropriate moments, and leave feeling like I'd checked the healing box. But horses don't care about your performance. They respond to what's actually happening inside you, and how you show up. Here's what Sundance taught me about the difference between surviving and actually healing.