Somebody asks how you're doing. You say fine. Nothing's being performed, nothing's being managed, nothing underneath needs translating. You said 'fine' because it's true, they move on, you move on. Nobody stops to ask which 'fine' you actually meant, because most people assume there's only one.

There isn't. There are at least four. And most women have spent decades cycling through all of them without ever being handed a way to tell which one they're in.